A sea change is a way of describing a complete transformation. It is a phrase coined by William Shakespeare and appears in one of his final plays, 'The Tempest' as part of Ariel's Song, when the playwright himself was going through some transformative changes himself, both professionally and personally.
Anyway, the idea of a sea change has been brought to mind for me to contemplate this week because of a new friend I've made. She is, like me, a 1965 model and we share some common interests, amongst which is gardening. This lady was bemoaning the fact she couldn't find a copy of a particular gardening book she was desperate to read, but was now out of print. She'd found one second hand copy for sale but as soon as she showed an interest, the seller ratcheted up the price.
I said, 'I know that book. I have read it. Still got it. Almost brand new condition. One careful lady owner!!'
And so it transpired that the book passed hands 'twixt she and me and happiness abounded on both sides.
And we got chatting some more. About change and taking risk and being 50 and how wonderful were our respective hubbies. And she pointed me towards the source of her own motivation for change. An article by Australian writer Bronnie Ware, who, in her time as a palliative care nurse, spoke to people living out their final few weeks and came to understand the most common regrets held by people about their lives.
The top five regrets of the dying, then, are:
1) I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2) I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
3) I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
4) I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5) I wish that I had let myself be happier.
Food for thought, don't you think? There is only one of the list I think would have no regret for, but I guess each person has a personal list and who knows what that list might be until maybe it was too late to address it. Of course, the idea is that one should address those wishes BEFORE they become regrets, and that, in turn, is the basis for living life to the fullest and happiest it can be.
Set our goals then! And dream our dreams...